Aug 30, 2023 · 3 min read
How to Stop Caring about Failure
Uncover practical insights that teach you how to transform setbacks
into powerful opportunities for personal growth, resilience, and a renewed
sense of purpose.
We've all been there—facing setbacks, stumbling in the pursuit of our goals, and
experiencing that sinking feeling of failure. But here's the truth: failure is not
the end; it's the beginning of a powerful journey. In this post, we're diving deep
into the realm of dealing with failure, armed with practical strategies that go
beyond the clichés. You're about to discover how failure can be your secret weapon
for growth, resilience, and a renewed sense of purpose.
Let's say someone's lost in a forest. They climb up a tree and find a tall highrise
building near the road where the forest's exit lies. And so they go back down and
decide to walk straight ahead, but 40 minutes later, they realize that they've been
going the wrong way, and now they're further away eastwards from the building. In
this case, their goal was to reach the exit, and they've failed by suferring a
setback and not reaching their goal as expected. Does this mean they're a failure
and that they're not cut out to try to achieve the goal? Should they curl up in
defeat and spend the rest of their lives in that forest because of their failure?
Of course not. That would sound absurd. However, many of us follow a very similar
thought pattern when we fail to reach our goals.
We must realize that failure is part of reaching goals, and probably every successful
person you look up to has suffered from failure of all kinds at several instances.
Failure is actually useful to us, because its due to the negative feedback that comes
with it that tells us that we need to reroute and try to achieve the goal another
way. If the traveller didn't realize he was moving farther away from the exit, he'd
have an extremely hard time escaping the forest. In this sense, it's good to
recognize your failure and use the negative feedback to improve your approach.
When it comes to skill-related goals, failure is essential because its from the
negative feedback that your subconscious mechanism will know what not to do.
Everything from playing an instrument and learning a new language to improving
your conversation skills are processes conducted by your subconscious mind, and
it helps you perfect these tasks by not doing what your failures teach you not to
do, until eventually the only outcome left is success. So, you must know that
although things might be hard, they slowly get easier over time.
Finally, we shouldn't use failure and our own abilities to judge the kind of
person we are. An ordinary man wouldn't consider him to be unworthy if he's not
as fast at sprinting as Usain Bolt. So why should we compare our abilities to those
of other people? And surprisingly enough, it's by detaching our self-worth to our
abilties, talents and achievements that we can be able to effectively work towards
goals without self-sabotaging and worrying about failure, because we'll know that
winning and losing are not that big of a deal, and this makes us deal with tasks
with a more calm attitude. Being calm while doing tasks and working towards goals
allows you to reach goals much more easily than stressing out about them.
As we wrap up this journey through the realm of dealing with failure, remember
that setbacks are not an endpoint, but a redirection. Just like the traveler in
the forest, the path to success is rarely linear. What matters is the perspective
we adopt when faced with failure. Instead of branding ourselves as failures, let's
see failure as a guidepost—a signal that we need to reassess our approach and
make adjustments.
Embracing failure with an open heart and a growth-oriented mindset is your secret
weapon for success. By redefining failure, cultivating resilience, and honoring
your worth beyond achievements, you'll navigate challenges with grace and emerge
stronger, wiser, and closer to your aspirations.
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